I HAVE HAD A TRIGGER ... SO WHAT?
We are going to talk about an issue that every man at some point in his life has been or will be concerned about. We are talking about the famous trigger.
It is important to differentiate having a trigger from having erectile dysfunction.
We speak of erectile dysfunction when there is an inability to maintain an erection sufficient to maintain a satisfactory sexual relationship. While the trigger is a lack of erection on specific occasions.
To differentiate one from the other, and therefore, know if we are facing a trigger, we have to take into account factors
such as age, and factors related to cardiovascular health, such as smoking, having high blood pressure, drinking alcohol, cholesterol problems, use of medication for depression or anxiety, having high blood sugar, among other causes. In general terms, a trigger does not translate any basic problem and only a few behavioral advice would be enough to solve the problem.
To make a proper assessment, a specialist can better identify the problem causing it and provide you with individualized treatment.
The trigger is a problem that concerns the man but the role of the partner plays a fundamental role.
From the man’s point of view he must avoid collapsing and also avoid giving him more weight than he has. Express how you feel to your partner. He must also avoid fear and anxiety of failure because they are the factors that help perpetuate the problem. Therefore, relaxation and meditation techniques to become aware of the sensations, will help to overcome anxiety and that paralyzing fear:
- Pubo coccygeal exercises, it is the muscle that men use to expel the last drops of urine. Strengthening this muscle helps, among other things, to strengthen the erection, and help to have greater control of ejaculation.
The exercise consists of squeezing, holding for a few seconds, and repeatedly releasing the muscle. 2 daily sessions of 5 minutes each would keep the muscle toned. If you do it correctly in 2 weeks you will begin to notice an improvement.
(Kegel exercises)
- Lying Down Pumps: This is a yoga exercise that improves blood flow. Lie down on the floor. Push your lower back toward the ground to avoid pressure on your lower back. Take a few deep, steady breaths and slowly raise your right leg as you inhale. Hold it for five inhalations and then lower it slowly as you exhale. Do the same process with your left side. Repeat this process up to 10 times. Be patient. If you do it correctly you will gradually notice the changes.
- Squats help build muscle mass in your legs, which helps increase blood flow to your lower body. More blood to your crotch will give your lower areas more energy to avoid re-runs of erectile dysfunction. Lean against a wall. Place your hands on your waist and bend your knees forward. Keep your back straight, lower and go up. 3 repetitions of 15 or 20 squats a day.
Emphasize that it is important to focus on sexual games not focused on intercourse that help to achieve a high level of arousal.
But what should the couple do?
The couple should not feel that they are causing the problem, nor that it is a problem of attraction and desire. Just as you shouldn’t blame him. You have to be understanding, talkative and help him increase his self-esteem as positive reinforcement when he manages to have full sexual relations.
Focus on other stimuli, which remove the idea of intercourse and thus avoid the anticipatory anxiety that he may suffer.
I had a trigger … So what !?